Recently married, this bride reflects on her thoughts during the planning process and how she came to the realization that in the end only one thing matters… sharing one of the greatest moments in life with loved ones.
I barely got to hear the song I chose to play as my new husband and I walked back down the aisle after saying our "I do's." At one point, I felt so strongly about having that song play that I was in tears. I didn't really notice how the reception tables looked, even though my husband and I handmade the naval flags that sat under the centerpieces, which consisted of flowers in the mason jars I couldn't live without. I think I had five bites of the BBQ and zero appetizers. Besides my first dance with my husband and the Father-Daughter dance, I only danced once to the bluegrass band we hired. Almost no one signed our guestbook, which I agonized over buying. I tried two out of ten available beverage varieties. At some point after photos, I lost my bouquet, which had to have daisies in it.
I know this seems tragic (especially to those couples out there currently mired in the muck of the details of wedding planning), but I feel the need to share that this is just not the case. I didn't notice those things because I was far too busy having the best time of my life. And the reason I had the best time of my life is that I got to spend the whole evening with my new husband and 150 of our dearest loved ones. The night was an insane whirlwind of hugs, short conversations, "thank you's," "hello's," kisses, smiles, photo opportunities and well, love. So much love in fact, that I could feel it in my step and in my smile all night. On that day, the only real moment of calm and clarity I experienced was during the ceremony, but it wasn't to notice the flowers or seating arrangements or whether or not the photographer was getting all the shots. It was to look into my husband's eyes and feel his hands in mine and to let him know that I'd be there always.
That being said, I think it's ok that I spent time and energy on all the details, because all of our guests noticed them, loved them, appreciated them and commented on how beautiful everything was. Some of them came a long way to be there. We even had one friend of the family tell us that she loved our wedding so much that she thought we should write a wedding planning manual. I did not realize it during the planning process, but those details were for them, not me. It ended up being our labor of love for our dearest family and friends, which made both my husband and I feel even better than we already did that day.
It takes a lot of work to put a wedding together, but what really matters in the end is the people. And that can mean just you and your partner, or that can mean you, your partner, and 300 of your family and friends.
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This edition of Aisle Dish is compiled from a recent bride’s accounts and introduction by one of Stoneleigh’s marketing team.